The 5-minute Habit Every Marriage Needs

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August 13, 2026   |   Read online Most marriages don't end in a fight They end in silence. Here's the 5-minute habit that keeps you connected. Watch this week's episode Kevin sits down with Blaine & Adrienne to discuss the one statement couples score lowest on in The Creation of Us assessment and why it might be the most important five minutes of your day. This 5-Minute Habit That Can Change Your Marriage (EP108) Prefer to listen? Catch this episode on Apple Podcasts or Spotify 🎧 Listen on Apple or Spotify The 5-Minute Habit That Can Change Your Marriage Every so often an assessment reveals something a couple already feels but has never said out loud. We built an assessment to go along with The Creation of Us. It measures three things: who you are as an individual, who you are as a couple, and how well you are supporting the person your spouse is becoming. Thousands of people have now taken it. And of every statement on that assessment, one scores lower than all the rest: We protect daily and weekly moments to disconnect from distractions, and focus purely on each other.   The lowest-scoring statement on the entire assessment Out of everything the assessment measures, this was the statement that tripped couples up the most. The daily one. Here's what I find fascinating: couples who score low here almost always love each other deeply. They score low because of one word. Daily. It feels impossible. When people read that statement, most picture the same thing: an uninterrupted hour of eye contact. No phones. No kids. On a Monday, between work and drop-off and dinner and bedtime. No wonder the score is low. But that's the myth. A connected marriage was never built on one big, uninterrupted hour. It grows out of something far smaller and far more doable, and it starts with about five minutes. Here's what that actually looks like in a real marriage, plus the surprising reason it takes all the pressure off your anniversaries, date nights, and big gestures. 👇 Read the full article → 📖 Going deeper: This week's theme comes straight from Chapter 6 of The Creation of Us, where Kevin lays out dozens of small "rhythms" for connecting. Pick one you're not doing yet and try it for a week. Get The Creation of Us on Amazon Already read it? Leave a rating & review on Amazon → It takes two minutes and helps another couple find it. Curious where you and your spouse actually stand? The free Creation of Us assessment takes a few minutes, and it might show you exactly which five-minute rhythm to protect first. Take the free assessment One more thing before you go 👇 This week I was back in Colorado Springs to be with Focus on the Family. As I was in the airport, I overheard someone talking about the end of a relationship and how shockingly fast it imploded. It reminded me, people often think relationships end quickly. But I have a different persecptive. Here’s a 60 second thought from the Denver Airport. kevin_a_thompson12K followers View more on Instagram ✦ A SPECIAL INVITATION ✦ The Ultimate Marriage Retreat: Lake Tahoe 2026 Trade the go-go-go for a few protected days with your spouse in one of the most beautiful places on earth. No kids to wrangle, no inbox, just rest, reconnection, and rhythms you'll take home with you. Reserve your spot at Tahoe → Work the odds to change the odds. See you next week. You are receiving the Change The Odds Newsletter because you have subscribed either through kevinathompson.com; changetheodds.com, through attending a conference with Kevin, or by taking the Friends, Partners & Lovers Marriage Assessment. Update your email preferences or unsubscribe here © 2026 Change The Odds 1515 Ridgeview Cir Auburn, CA 95603, United States Powered by beehiiv